4 Persuasive Techniques To Become A Confident Persuader

Persuasive Techniques and self-confidence go hand in hand. If your self-confidence is low, your ability to persuade people will be low. To boost your self-confidence, ask yourself a simple question, "What praise did I get from people before, that made me more self-assured?" 

Look within yourself for your strong traits, and expand them. What good quality things do others say about you? Copy someone who has used persuasive techniques on you in the past, and improve their strategies.

Think back and remember times you have successfully used persuasive techniques to, sway, influence or motivated somebody. Consider these things:

1) What did you do to convince your crush to be your girlfriend (or boyfriend)? 

2) What did you do to persuade your boss to agree to your request?

3) What did you do to motivate someone to perform better?

4) How did you negotiate with your parents to get a larger allowance?

You may not be aware of it, but there are countless times that you have successfully persuaded people. You may just not be aware that you're using persuasive techniques in those cases.

Write down those instances and think of how you may apply them in your current situation or future use. Find ways in which you can apply persuasion in your everyday life. Here are 4 ways to become a highly confident persuader: 

Persuasive Technique # 1: Be unwavering and resolute in your purpose.

You've got to stand by your objective and never let other people forcefully persuade you into agreeing with them. However, this doesn't mean you remain stiff and inflexible if new data or proof has been presented.

Even if you still don't like their idea, at least appear to consider their opinion in your decision. This shows respect and humility. Say something like, "You got a good point there. I'll certainly take that into consideration."

Persuasive Technique # 2: You also have to be passionate with your words and body language.

When you show enthusiasm, people are more likely to be influenced because you make it seem like you're so sure about your idea. Sometimes they will just stay silent when you're talking to them. This will make you feel uncomfortable and might sway you to just give up with your efforts. In this case... 

Persuasive Technique # 3: Never be discouraged.

Prepare your message well and stay focused on your target. When you're requesting something and they stay silent, don't just go away unsatisfied. When they want you to do something and they stay quiet after you've told them you can't do it, make a stand! Stick by your decision.

Explain to them the valid reasons why you want or don't want to do something. If they stayed silent to make you feel uncomfortable, don't just agree with what they want. Keep your cool. Talk to them again and tell them that your decision is final.

If they frown, fold their arms, take a deep breath, or shake their heads, apply the same procedure. Be confident while communicating and stay unaffected by their distracting moves or actions. 

What if they told you that they remembered the discussion to be different? Isn't it frustrating to have agreed on something and they suddenly said that they heard it in a different perspective? 

You can kindly ask them to prove it. You can ask when, how, or where it was said. If they cannot maintain constancy of data and accuracy in their statements, then you've got a winning case.

Persuasive Technique # 4: Get as much space as you can to be perceived as confident. 

Spread your arms and legs in a graceful manner. You will be conceived as an authority in command. 

However, exuding confidence doesn't mean you show the world how great you are or boast about your "achievements." The truth is, insecure - not confident - people do that to make up for their lack of ability or empty feeling. Besides, we hate arrogant people. 

Maintain your confidence at all times, and your persuasive techniques will bring powerful results.

About the Author:
Michael Lee is the author of the highly acclaimed “How to be a Master Persuasion Wizard”. It reveals mind-altering persuasive techniques and secrets to tremendously enhance your relationships, boost your career and business, develop rock-solid self-confidence, and influence anyone to your way of thinking. If you invest in his book, you'll automatically be a valued member of the Persuasion Wizard Master Club.